That is, unless you count my first boyfriend – José – who, in the second grade, long-distance collect-called me from Puerto Rico and got me in a lot of trouble with my dad. But I think it’s worth revisiting these concepts within the context of romantic or sexual relationships. And the way we practice our allyship in those contexts should reflect that.So, whether you’re years deep in a charmingly fairy tale-esque romance with your beau or you’re just now firing up to dive into your first, here are seven things to remember as a white person involved with a person of color.lie to yourself) that interracial dating isn't a problem.But let us not forget that just 50 years ago interracial marriage was illegal in many states.Not only was my upbringing littered with a constant reminder of our deeply convoluted roots (see: any Spike Lee Joint), but I also matriculated through predominantly white primary schools, survived “Southern Rites”-like neighborhoods (in both Georgia and Maryland) and bumped rap music in my CD player obsessively.It made the thought of being black and dating someone not black intriguing, but extremely painful to digest.
The only consequences surfaced with my lack of emotional responsibility and naïveté about the whole ordeal.Have you subscribed to negative stereotypes about your own race?A couple embarking on an interracial partnership must prepare themselves for curious stares and racist comments you have never before experienced. If you are not a strong person - mentally and emotionally - then interracial dating is best avoided. Our joy in our relationships, ANY relationship, must come from the surprise and delight of finding someone we have a spiritual, mental and emotional connection to. Choosing someone to love and someone to care about you should be your first priority, not race. There are no particular advantages to choosing a partner of a different race just to experience a new joy per se that I can think of offhand.