It’s about finding a relationship that will be able to weather the storm; an episode. There are many dangers out there that when hypomanic or hypersexual, some may not be competent enough to handle properly.
I think of an old joke about an old man sitting in a bar drinking while holding a picture of his wife.
Individuals learn to watch out for triggers that may send them spinning into an exaggerated mood state.
Yet, sex for those who are bipolar can prove a real minefield.
It is an unavoidable fact of living with a mood disorder or mental illness.
A few months into our relationship, I dragged him off to sex therapy because of his seemingly uncontrollable behaviour. Up until the escort point, I’d thought that the other signs – the spending sprees, sporadic drug-taking, or staying up all night to work - were nothing more than foils to his ample creativity.
Fast forward six years: we were madly in love and engaged, then married.
One year after that, my husband came home after work, sat down at the kitchen table, and told me he wanted a divorce. A few months after that, he was diagnosed with Bipolar 2, and our marriage was in for a hell of a ride.
I’d always known he struggled with high and low moods.
But it wasn’t until the intimate aspect of our relationship fell apart that I realised, perhaps selfishly, that something else was wrong.