Will you be able to accomplish ministry (be it your original plan or one that you have caught a vision for through this person) more effectively together than apart? Look at the roles laid out there for men and women.Do you desire to fill your role with the person in question specifically in mind?"There is no 'normal.' Partners may have an implicit expectation of the length of an engagement, based on their family, their culture and their community.Sometimes this is different for each partner, and if it is not significantly discussed in a very explicit way, it can lead to misunderstandings." She continues: "There is no magic time frame when a couple should date before the engagement, but the rule for any happy and successful marriage is to realize this—all couples go through a 'romantic love' phase.On the whole he's a fantastic person, but I'm wondering whether his porn addiction is a red flag.Do you think we should move forward in our relationship? The addiction is based on neurochemical changes that occur in the brain as a result of prolonged exposure to stimulating sexual imagery.That's because pornography addiction is not about sex.It's a symptom of an human being and to replace it with impersonal sensual imagery.
"Many couples wait until they are ready to have children, or ready to buy a home before they marry," Nelson says.
Finally, is there an affection for this person in my heart and mind based on the way God has defined biblical manhood and womanhood?
This is (hopefully) a much deeper and godlier assessment then simply asking, "Am I physically attracted to him or her? " If you get through all that soul-searching, you may decide (probably separately at this point) that marriage between the two of you is the right thing before the Lord.
To be more specific, don't assume that normal marital sexual relations will take the place of porn in his life.
No living, breathing, thinking woman can possibly fill that role without doing untold damage to herself as a person.